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Making Holidays Magical

• Tabitha MacDonald

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When tradition collides with real life, the holidays can crack open all our stress, grief, and expectations. We set out to change that narrative by choosing a new end result—connection, gratitude, and wonder—and letting those feelings lead how we show up, rather than letting anxiety and perfectionism set the script. Through candid stories of plans derailed and mornings spent alone, we walk a compassionate, practical path to a season that feels honest and still deeply magical.

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Okay, this holiday season, I would like to talk about how to make the holidays magic, no matter what is happening in your life. And what we're gonna talk about is actually kind of what magic is and what how to make your world more magical when it feels like it's not. Now, one of my favorite movies is Harry Potter, all of them. And I love it because I think it reminds us to be magical. And there's this phrase that I use when I'm thinking like when I'm stuck in a problem. Like, have you ever been stuck in a problem and you don't know how to solve it? And I call this muggle mindset. It's like you think you have to solve it all by yourself. And this is your ego kind of like running around in a loop, and it's like, oh, I can't get out of the problem. I can't get out of the problem, I can't get out of the problem. And that's how most of us deal with and tackle problems. We're not looking at the end result, we're only looking at the problem inside of the problem. And to be honest, you can't solve a problem in the same consciousness that created it, which is the construct of your conscious mind. So let's say there's a lot of people probably who are going to be single this Christmas. And there's a lot of people who might be experiencing their first Christmas sharing custody with their ex, uh, and they're not gonna wake up with their kids Christmas morning. And there's a lot of people who are probably newly single either by losing someone they love or by whatever reason or however they came to it. And this can be really hard, especially if it's your first year being alone on Christmas. And I will say, as a seasoned pro, I've got your back. I got some advice for you. And um, I want to tell you that if this is your first year and you're you're newly divorced and your kids are going to be splitting time, it gets better. And I know that might not feel true right now, if this is you, uh, but it does get better. And for those of you whose kids are older and they can't come home this Christmas, and it feels like a big big pain, this is also for you. It gets better. And, you know, I think with like technology and stuff, it makes it a little bit easier because we can zoom, we can FaceTime, we can do those types of things. Um, but you know, it it's hard. Like I'll just start by saying it's it's hard. Uh my first year after I got divorced uh with the kids, they when we when it was time for me to give the kids to my ex on Christmas morning, and you know, they stayed the night over there and I had to go pick them up at like nine the next day or whatever. It was awful. It was horrible. I had to wake up and they weren't there. And you know, I think there's this period of time when your kids are tiny and and you think, oh my god, I would give anything to just wake up Christmas morning with a cozy cup of coffee, a blanket, and a good book, and um just wake up on my own terms. And I promise you, it's not that great. I take the chaos over the cozy blanket and coffee on my own speed any day. And uh it's one of the things you might miss later. So one of the gifts I would like to give you is one how to create the Christmas that you would like to have, and also to be present in the one that you get to have. Last year, I think my daughter ran off with her ex three days before Christmas. I got a text message, very um teenagery, you know, romantic. Like, I'm no, you don't approve of my boyfriend, but I'm running off with him from the airport message a couple days before Christmas. I I actually thought I might kill her because I thought, how dare you ruin Christmas for me? And it was interesting because I actually forgot that this happened last year. And I was trying to think about last Christmas, and I was like, I don't remember it. And I'm like, no, I do. I was trying to volunteer for a homeless youth shelter, and uh the shelter it it wasn't safe anyways, that's a totally different story. But then I was like, and then I ended up spending it with two friends, and it was not with anything that I had planned or that I thought it that it would end up being. Where was my daughter? I was like, because she lived at home, and I really had to dig into my memory bank because I'm the type of person that rewrites bad memories into zero memories about the bad experience on the fly. So it's called being a seven on the Enneagram. So I had to like dig in the bank and go, where was she last Christmas? And I was like, oh, I forgot. Yeah, that's right. She ran off with um someone. I got a text message from the airport saying, don't be mad. And note to any young adults or any human, don't start a sentence like that. That will immediately make me mad. Because now I'm like, no, now I'm prepped for it. Um and so what I'm trying to say is that Christmas doesn't always go how you want it to be. And and I had to, and you know, I I didn't have to. I woke up alone on Christmas because of that. And I was, I was mad about it because I was like, I've spent, you know, 19 years trying to make Christmas magical for you. And you just bailed on me and you didn't even think about me. And when I got into that spiral, it felt horrible, like this victim feeling in my chest that felt disempowered and awful. And what I did was I ended up using the process that I'm about to teach you to come up with a solution to that problem. And what I did was I stepped into the end results of okay, well, there's nothing you can do about her choices about, you know, running off. And there's nothing that you can do right now. And I wasn't talking to my family at the time, so I knew I wasn't gonna be at their house for Christmas. And so this existential dread took over. Like, great, I'm gonna be alone on Christmas because I'm single, you know, and I don't have people. So, well, that's not true. I have people, I wasn't seeing them because I because I was in a phase of healing and I had eliminated a lot of the old people from my life because to be honest, a lot of them just caused me a lot of pain because we were still in those narcissistic codependent abuse cycles. And once I removed those triangulation relationships from my life, I didn't have a lot of people left. So I'm I was intentionally being alone, going through this phase of healing and recovering from narcissistic abuse. And so here I am. I'm like, okay, well, you're a powerful creator, you can create Christmas how you want. And so I stepped into the end result, and it was, what do you really want? And I want to um have connection. And so I'm gonna invite you to do this right now. So if Christmas isn't going your way, or maybe this is your first Christmas being alone, um, or maybe the kids are adults now and maybe they're not coming home for Christmas, or maybe you lost someone, or you went through a divorce, try this out because this is gonna help. Um, because we have to create a new experience of Christmas. We can't create the old experience that we had before. And if you're not a Christmas person and you're a um Hanukkah person or um all of the other holidays, I'm sorry, they're not coming to my head right now. Um, but if any of them will work. This will work for birthdays, it'll work for to be honest, anything. So I want you to just put your hand on your heart and just acknowledge that things aren't gonna be the way that you wanted them to be this year. And you can just kind of breathe in. And now I just want you to think about the emotion of what you would like to create. So, right now we're just gonna create a magical holiday experience. And that's gonna be our choice. We're all gonna have a magical holiday experience. So just kind of like breathe into. I am choosing to have a magical holiday experience. No matter what my circumstances are, I'm choosing to have that. And when you breathe into that feeling, and a lot of you are gonna have some resistance because I can sense it. And, you know, you can choose to hold on to the old story, you can choose to hold on to how you think it needs to be, or you can simply choose something new. And this is where intuition comes in, because it's going to lead you to a new magical experience that's going to be completely different than the one that your ego thought it should be or how it should be. And this is where magic comes in, my friends, because magic comes in in the in between when we just choose to have a new experience instead of reliving the old ones. So put your hand on your heart, our hand on your belly, and I just want you to breathe for a minute. And if you could allow yourself to imagine having a magical Christmas, let's try this. Step into a white room where you have no past, and in front of you is a door, and it just says a magical holiday experience. And just let go of the past for a minute. Just see it like the chains dropping, and see all the old stories and the old rules and the old definitions of how it needs to be. And walk through this door that says I'm choosing to have a magical holiday experience. And now I just walk in. And what is the feeling that you want? Think about the feelings that my guess is it's probably connection, love, a feeling of generosity, a feeling of gratitude and appreciation. I'm seeing sparkles, like just I just want to feel sparkly and joyful, and I want to feel meaning and purpose and like connection, and I want to have a deep appreciation for life, all of it. And I want to feel good, is what I want, and I want to feel the appreciation, and I want to feel gratitude. So if you can make that feeling really big and really bright, and now you're in this new space that says magical holidays, what's around you? What do you see? What are you experiencing in this moment in the future where you get to have this magical holiday experience? And anytime your brain wants to go to the past, just say, No, I'm actually gonna create something from the future. Just really allow yourself to step into it. And now take a few notes, write down what is it that you really want, and make sure that you're connecting in with the emotions of the experience that you want to create. And I want to ask you right now, how does that feel in your body? How does it feel? How do you know you have it without other people needing to be involved? So I like to put little beams of golden light there because sometimes we just want it to be with a specific person, we want it to be a specific way, but that person is being stubborn and they're not cooperating. So we really want to put beams of light instead of other people, specific people. This frees the universe up to create something new and magical for us. And then I want you to come back into the current reality, and this is the second step. What is it like now? And just maybe jot down some notes. Like I immediately feel like a tightness in my chest, this anxiety of oh my gosh, I have so much to do, and um, I don't know where I'm gonna be yet, and my daughter's not gonna be here, and I'm sad about that, but my son is, and I'm grateful about that. And then I feel this pressure of did I get them the right presence? Do I need to, you know, get my family presents because I am going there this year? Are things gonna be okay this year when I go see them? Um, is it gonna like all work out? Basically, that's what the current reality is, and that's anxiety. Is it all going to work out? That's that's basically anxiety, is this fear that things aren't gonna work out. And so now I'm thinking about my current reality, and my house is a mess, and I feel backlogged at work because I was sick for a week and a half. I'm stressed about the new year, and I'm taking away the one thing that I wanted the most, which was to be present in my life. So that's my current reality. Now, there's tension between where I'm at now and where I want to go. So, and this is true for you too. So, hopefully, you wrote down a few notes about what it's like now. And hopefully you wrote down a vision of how you would like to experience the holiday season. Now, what I'm gonna have you do is if you want, you can experience a little mini recode with me right here, right now. And what that basically means is we look at the tension between here and now because all creation happens with tension, and that means on a scale of one to ten, how impossible do you think the vision of your holiday is? So let's say, you know, okay, ladies, if you wrote Brad Pitt down in your little like holiday vision, we gotta remove him. So I know he's been there for me for a long time, but like at some point we have to realize that there's only one of him and a million of us. So somebody's gotta let him go. I'm doing it. So, anyway, so you can't put the person there, but if you know you want to have like maybe a romantic experience, or um, like, you know, I was in that this funny side note, but I was in the airport coming home from Phoenix from my conference that I was at, and this man is walking behind me and he seems confused, and he asked me for help, and I'm like, Well, I'm not from Phoenix, but I have a feeling your kids that way, and then he starts chatting me up and he says, you know, those great movies around Christmas time where you have um the two people meet, and it's like one of those funny 90s rom-com movies, and they were like always destined to meet in the airport. And I'm like, of course I do. I watch like the Hallmark channel. Hello, um, I'm a I'm a woman. And uh he like and I started talking, and I was like, oh, is this one of those rom-com times? And he was he was clearly flirting with me. Um, and I just smiled at him and I said, I think your gates that way. Also make sure that you're um that you conceal your drunkenness a little bit because the way you just threw your phone across the airport floor is probably gonna get you the kind of attention that you don't want before you step onto a flight. And um, it was fun to be flirted with, anyways. So you know what? Yeah, that that can go in there too. So if you're single, maybe you want to write in it, I would like to be flirted with somewhere. Um, and that would be fun. So step in the enter into the energy of flirtiness and playfulness and um however you want it to be passion. Maybe you want to have passion or uh excitement, thrilling stuff. Okay, I'm just going back into the end result. So we're back in the end result, and then you have your current reality, and maybe you're alone and um maybe you feel lonely, maybe you feel left out, um, maybe you feel unworthy, or like everything has to be super perfect. Like you're like, oh, I just can't relax on Christmas because I'm so worried about making it perfect for everyone else. I'll talk about that on another episode because I lived like that for a very long time. So just write down what you think it needs to be, or what what it is right now that you're worried about. And you'll notice that between here and there, there's some tension, right? There's like this boulders that are blocking you. And this is what I call resistance. This is what we call resistance in superconscious work. So rate your resistance on a scale of one to ten. How much resistance do you think there is to you having that experience? Now, just acknowledge that that's the resistance that you feel, and that resistance signifies how powerless you feel over creating life on your terms. So let's go with a superconscious recode now. So, all you have to do is in your mind, you can give access to me to make changes in your field today. And you know, you can do this all of the time. I don't, you don't have to have someone else do it for you. Um, the great part about working with an intuitive is I can see resistance that you can't because our conscious mind always blocks it from us, and that's just how our conscious minds were designed. Not a bad thing, we're all like that, but like just you know, acknowledge the number. So write down the number on a scale of one to ten. Um, mine, you know, is pretty high, and so I just now gonna invite you. And so, how the superconscious recode works is imagine that you're walking down a path, and you want to get into the land of magical Christmas, and in the way is a bunch of reindeer poop, and you don't want to step in the reindeer poop because that would ruin your shoes. And we'll we'll say all the resistance, all your beliefs, all of your history, it's all rainbow poop on the path. And from your consciousness right now, you always manage to step in the rainbow poop and then turn around because who wants to walk through a bunch of reindeer poop? Did I say rainbow poop? It doesn't matter. Reindeer poop. And so there you are, you're trying to get to the magical Christmas wonderland, and there's all this rainbow reindeer, not rainbow, rainbows don't poop, reindeer poop, and you keep stepping in it, and then you got to turn around and change your shoes. So, with your super conscious, it's basically like the great giant reindeer poop cleaner upper. So it can come in and just scoop it all up so that you can get to the magical wonderland with more ease and flow in your life. So that is my super conscious Christmas metaphor. Um, and that is how the super conscious works. So, with that said, you're okay, so there's also parts and aspects of your consciousness that don't believe that there is anything outside. You that will help remove the reindeer poop. And those parts are like your protector controller parts because they know how to create the old experiences, and they've been doing it so long that they get kind of mad that you're asking them to create something new because they're like, but I know how to create the old one where I get drunk and fight with Aunt Barbara. You know, that's that's what I know how to create. And if I don't do that, what's my job? So we're gonna invite all those parts and aspects that don't know the new job yet to come online and to just work with the superconscious so that they can get new new instructions, new contracts, so that you can have more ease and joy and love and sparkle in your holiday season. So now I want you to just maybe close your eyes if you want, or if you're driving, this works too. Please don't close your eyes. I don't need another motor vehicle accident because of a distracted driver. So take a deep breath in. And I want you to float into the future. And it's maybe a couple days from now, and you know, it's the holiday, and maybe it's Christmas Eve or Christmas morning, or the let's go to a couple days after Christmas. And I want you to just look back at Christmas or whatever holiday is that you're celebrating, and you look back and you think that was one of the best holidays of my life. I was really present. I had experiences of deep connection. And I felt magic and joy in my life. Like I felt love, I felt connection, I felt like it was beautiful. It'll go in my memory bank. It's one of my favorite experiences ever. And now look back at the you from a couple days outside of the holidays and write down maybe what did you do? What was different about this holiday season? What was what was special? Who were you being that allowed the magic to unfold the way that you wanted it to? Who were you being? Not everyone else, just you. Maybe take a couple of notes and breathe in. And now just notice that that person's kind of different from who you are now or who you've always been. Superconscious, please begin to create the perfect treatment plan in the perfect way. So that all parts and aspects of the conscious mind and the unconscious mind can align to create magical holidays for self, for others, for the world, to be fully aligned with the path of highest potential in the higher self. Anything in the way of that, delete, uncreate, and destroy across all time, dimension, space, and realities. Superconscious, do you see this busyness? The distractions, the perfectionism. Please create the perfect treatment plan to dissolve the need to be perfect. Superconscious, there's a lack of appreciation in the field in general. Please treat this across all time, dimension, space, and realities and install a deep appreciation for the present moment, for the experience at hand. Please treat all states of fear, disempowerment, control. Please treat all trauma responses that keep recurring during the holidays. Please treat all family beliefs, family relationships. Please treat the masculine line and the feminine line all the way back to the ancestors who created it all. Please treat into a massive change history, installing a deep sense of purpose, presence, appreciation, and love. Superconscious, please identify all fear-based definitions of love that are creating a lie in the conscious and unconscious structures. Please align with true unconditional love for self, others, and the world. And please also install a deep sense of safety and groundedness in the present moment. Anything in the way of that, delete, uncreate, and destroy across all time, dimension, space, and realities. Take a deep breath in. And if you're driving, don't worry about it. Just leave your eyes open and pay attention to the road. And if you're out walking, just notice the world around you. What is one thing you could do today to make your life more magical? Where you could be in more appreciation, more bliss, more joy? If the thing you crave most is to be appreciated, how can you appreciate the world around you today a little bit more? Find one thing that you appreciate about this moment right now. What do you appreciate about the people around you? What do you appreciate about the world around you, the universe? What is beautiful and joyful in your life right now, in this moment, right now? There is something beautiful around you. It might be a twinkle light. It might be the way a flower petal falls to the ground. It might be the way that the sun glistens over the clouds in the sky. But right now there is something beautiful that you can appreciate. Take a deep breath in. And now let's go back out into that future reality. It's a few days after the holidays, and you look back and you see the beauty of it. You know that this was magical and the experience was exactly how it should be. Who did you have to let go of? What experience did you have to decide you were no longer going to tolerate? What did you do in the holidays this year to make it magical? To make it loving? Fun? What needed to be released? Was it expectation? Was it bitterness? Superconscious, please identify all unconscious emotions in the somatic intelligence that are creating the undesired reality. Superconscious, please identify all anger, resentment, bitterness, grief, sadness, loss. Please identify the root cause of loneliness and bitterness. And treat the original event where it exists in space and time without needing to re-traumatize the main personality. Simply treat the energetic impression, the emotional attachment, the mental cue. Please treat the entire nervous system. Please treat all 12 body systems identifying all trauma patterns in the body. The keep recreating unwanted experiences. Please treat this across all time, dimension, space, and realities. Please treat the DNA. Please treat all structures energetic. Please treat all of the chakras, aligning them with the high self, with the higher self. Aligning them with the true unconditional love that is around them. Please remove any unconscious blocks or barriers, known or unknown. Please treat all fear patterns. Please treat all feelings of being unworthy. Thank you. Please treat this across all time, dimension, space, and realities. Superconscious, do you see the parts that are creating a lack of belonging as a defense strategy? Yes, can I please talk to all of those parts? But you already belonged. You already belong right here, right now. What would it take for you to just let that story go and just simply allow yourself to belong now? Anything in the way of that delete, uncreate and destroy across all time, dimension, space, and realities. How can you belong to yourself even more? How can you love yourself so much that the love pours out of you everywhere you go? Anything in the way of that delete, uncreate and destroy across all time, dimension, space, and realities. Superconscious, please treat the inner child that keeps popping up and creating drama because it wants attention, because it wants to resolve its conflict. Please treat this down to the root cause and do a massive change history and everything as needed. Thank you. Now breathe in and breathe out, and just know that not everything has to be treated today. Superconscious, please continue to treat all unprocessed emotions and experiences. Please continue to treat in alignment with the higher self. Please activate the higher self so that it is fully aligned with all levels of consciousness guiding you on your path of highest potential. Superconscious, anywhere the main personality does not trust themselves, their higher self, or the path laid before them. Please treat this and do a massive change history and everything else. You need thank you. Please treat trust. Please treat the sentence structures, I don't trust myself. Don't trust my higher self. I don't trust my intuition, I don't trust anyone. Please treat this across all time, dimension, space, and realities. I would like to speak to all of the parts who were betrayed and who are holding on to this inability to trust oneself. Are you ready to let it go now? Because you can let it go now. Superconscious, anything in the way of not delete, uncreate, and destroy across all time, dimension, space, and realities, you can let it go now if you choose. You can trust yourself again. Take a deep breath in. And now I want you to think about that future moment in time. And you're looking back at the holidays and you think, wow, that was truly magical, special. I appreciate the experience that I had. Superconscious, please treat all anxiety patterns, fear of the future. Please treat any unresolved depression or mental health disorders. Please treat all field structures, removing them and removing all attachment points, clearing the field, allowing deep resonance with the higher self, with universal consciousness of love and light. Anything in the way of that, delete, uncreate, and destroy across all time, dimension, space, and realities. Take a deep breath in. Now imagine there's a light above your head. It's about 300 feet above you. Pull that light down through the top of your head, down your spine, all the way down to your feet, down into your fingers, let it fill up your belly, expand it about three feet around you. And now imagine that there's an invisible bubble of golden light around you. And just see an auric shield of protection as you walk through your day, so that no negative energy can come in. And that all negative energy from within can simply leave now, if you choose. And just allow your bubble to fill up with love and light. And as that light fills your body, your mind, your emotions, your energetic field, anything that is not love or above is commanded to leave now. And just know that you can do that anytime, anywhere, any place. Make sure your auric fuel is tight, and that only love enters here. Only your love from your higher self, from the universe, whatever it is that you call it and express it, it is yours. And allow yourself to fill up with even more love, more light, more presence, more magic, more love. Make it brighter, make it bigger. Fill your bubble up with so much sparkle and joy that all you attract is magic. All you attract is more love, more experiences of connection, more gratitude, more grace, more of what makes life beautiful. Superconscious, please ground all memories we've touched today, including memories one, two, and three, and return them to the matrix of the universe. Now, my dear, from this place, write down what action does your future self have for you to do today to make sure that you align with the most magical Christmas or holiday season that you would like to create. Take a moment, write it down, or if you're driving, you can speak it into your phone, or maybe you'll just save it for later and know. But come back to this as often as you need. If you're really struggling this holiday season and you feel like you had a little bit of a shift, but not a big one, you can come listen to this as many times as you need. And this is a process I use all of the time when I'm really struggling with making a decision, or when I know I want something, but I don't quite understand what it is that I want yet. I go into the emotion of it. Like, how do I want to feel? How do I want to experience this? How will I at the other side feel good about the choices I made? And how can I get to know the new identity of the person I'm becoming even more? How can I get to know them today so that I'm less afraid of my future self, the one that I'm choosing to create? And how can I bring and spread more love and joy into the world? And it's funny because when you go into the day with that, suddenly you kind of transcend this how can I get this from other people, and you go into the energy of how can I give this to more people, and then all of a sudden you also receive in a larger state of abundance, and that is universal law, my friend. So take a deep breath in. And I hope you enjoyed this experience. If you did, please take a moment to rate or just rank my or just vote for vote, write a review for my podcast. I am part of my goal, and in 2026 is to rank higher in the podcast ratings, um, so that I can bring more valuable content to people that's needed right now, and to help people have the tools that they need in order to create life on their terms and to align with their higher selves so that they can live fully empowered lives. And ratings apparently are a great way to get the word out to more people. So share this with someone you know who is struggling this holiday season. And if you did find this helpful, would you drop a little comment and tell me, you know, why you thought it was helpful, how it was helpful, what insights did you get, and what are you committed to doing in 2026 that's different than what you did in 2025? Happy holidays, my friends. Take care.

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